Well, Ryan and I fight as all couples do, but thanks to Christ in our lives, it happens few and far between. Today's love dare is about having healthy rules of engagement when you are fighting with one another. Ryan and I have talked about this before. At different times, different suggestions have been given. Here are some good rules of engagement that we like:
--Don't fight in public.
--Tell the person you need a break because you are not able to practice self control if you are feeling out of control, BUT don't walk away until you've asked permission to take a break.
--stick to the issue at hand (no bunny trails)
--Admit your own part/insecurities in the problem
--Try not to fight in front of the kiddos
--Don't disagree on discipline for the kids in front of them
--Don't use raised voices
--Give the benefit of the doubt to the other person
--Don't do the silent treatment--communicate.
--Have restitution as soon as possible and pray at the end of a discussion.
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